“Even when you are old and gray and senile and have no idea who I am, I will always love you.” (pg 1)
This is a quote from the very first page. This is what her best friend wrote in her yearbook. However, a lifetime promise is never going to happen. Friendships rarely last forever and we all know that. It starts the book with a lie, it already indicates that friendships among girls are filled up with lies, disappointments and distance. Girls don’t lie without reasons, whether it is to boost popularity, to hide those marks or feelings. The most important thing that girls care about in high school is popularity. Thus, it does not feel good to lose it. Once you are kicked out of the popular group, you are placed underneath those who aren't even popular. It is almost as if you climbed the ladder so high that a tiny mistake makes you fall. We should feel happy when we get satisfying grades. Ironically, the smart thing to do is acting dumb when we are popular. There is no explanation to why dumb girls can attract so many guys. Maybe it’s because she wouldn't know when he is cheating on her. When getting asked “are you okay” by friends the answer is always “I’m fine.” Even if we feel sad, lost or abandoned, the truth is never going to be spoken. Sharing feelings are always at risk.Therefore, sharing them with the right person is another factor to consider. Girls lie to be in close relationships with each other and to also show love. It is funny how lies keep relationships close and enemies closer.
This is a quote from the very first page. This is what her best friend wrote in her yearbook. However, a lifetime promise is never going to happen. Friendships rarely last forever and we all know that. It starts the book with a lie, it already indicates that friendships among girls are filled up with lies, disappointments and distance. Girls don’t lie without reasons, whether it is to boost popularity, to hide those marks or feelings. The most important thing that girls care about in high school is popularity. Thus, it does not feel good to lose it. Once you are kicked out of the popular group, you are placed underneath those who aren't even popular. It is almost as if you climbed the ladder so high that a tiny mistake makes you fall. We should feel happy when we get satisfying grades. Ironically, the smart thing to do is acting dumb when we are popular. There is no explanation to why dumb girls can attract so many guys. Maybe it’s because she wouldn't know when he is cheating on her. When getting asked “are you okay” by friends the answer is always “I’m fine.” Even if we feel sad, lost or abandoned, the truth is never going to be spoken. Sharing feelings are always at risk.Therefore, sharing them with the right person is another factor to consider. Girls lie to be in close relationships with each other and to also show love. It is funny how lies keep relationships close and enemies closer.
“Pretending is something I am becoming good at. Possibly a little too good: I’m never sure exactly who I am.” (pg 26)
Getting lost in high school is an experience that every girl has. For example, getting lost for the future and relationships. In high school, we have to plan out our future. We have to figure out what we want to be just like it is about self exploration. When we don’t do well on a test as expected, we go crazy such as “OMG, my report card mark is going to drop so much! I am not going to make it into university! What are my friends gonna think of me? They’re going to think I’m dumb!” When these thoughts go through our mind, lies start to happen. We pretend that we got 90s on that test we just failed and walk away with a smiling face. This also happens with friendships, we never know who our true friends are. There is no way to predict who is going to backstab us. There is so much motion going around that we don’t know who is acting and who is not. So all of the secrets, feelings and exhaustion kept to ourselves because we don't know who to tell or not. All of these insecureness leads to ‘acting’ out a totally different life than we are naturally.
Getting lost in high school is an experience that every girl has. For example, getting lost for the future and relationships. In high school, we have to plan out our future. We have to figure out what we want to be just like it is about self exploration. When we don’t do well on a test as expected, we go crazy such as “OMG, my report card mark is going to drop so much! I am not going to make it into university! What are my friends gonna think of me? They’re going to think I’m dumb!” When these thoughts go through our mind, lies start to happen. We pretend that we got 90s on that test we just failed and walk away with a smiling face. This also happens with friendships, we never know who our true friends are. There is no way to predict who is going to backstab us. There is so much motion going around that we don’t know who is acting and who is not. So all of the secrets, feelings and exhaustion kept to ourselves because we don't know who to tell or not. All of these insecureness leads to ‘acting’ out a totally different life than we are naturally.
“Who do they think they are?” (pg 48)
Snobby Bit**es, looking down at everyone simply because they have “the looks.” There are girls like them in every school, their marks are terrible whereas they think they're the best. Majority of the popular girls are like this, all they have to do is looking pretty, dressing slutty and partying with guys. In fact, this is what gets them the popularity. The fact that they are popular boosts their ego and the respect level for everyone starts to go down the drain. Girls who says this are often the exclusive ones. They have their own “popular” group, who all look down on others and discuss about the dumbest things. All they talk about is makeup, fashion and boys. Talking about which hot guy they hooked up with last night makes up their entire day. These people exist within the book and in reality, these people may look like “dumb blondes” but inside they look down on others.
Snobby Bit**es, looking down at everyone simply because they have “the looks.” There are girls like them in every school, their marks are terrible whereas they think they're the best. Majority of the popular girls are like this, all they have to do is looking pretty, dressing slutty and partying with guys. In fact, this is what gets them the popularity. The fact that they are popular boosts their ego and the respect level for everyone starts to go down the drain. Girls who says this are often the exclusive ones. They have their own “popular” group, who all look down on others and discuss about the dumbest things. All they talk about is makeup, fashion and boys. Talking about which hot guy they hooked up with last night makes up their entire day. These people exist within the book and in reality, these people may look like “dumb blondes” but inside they look down on others.
“This is what life’s like for me, here in my bubble” (pg 51)
When we are hurt and wounded, we like to get away from life and hide in our personal bubble. If life all takes place in your bubble then it is a problem. We look outside of the bubble and see the dangers, so we can only imagine a place in our little minds where everything we do is safe. Nothing leaves this bubble: no secrets, regrets and tears. Looking out at the world, we feel lost, ashamed and abandoned. But when we are in our safe bubble, the outside war doesn't bother us. Everything outside has no relevance to us. When the real world has damaged us so much, it is hard to go back in even if we feel left out. The fear of being hurt keeps coming back to our minds when we try to socialize again. The voices “she called you ugly~ she called you fat~ she called you a bit*h” keeps repeating and repeating. When a trauma like this happened it is hard to work in groups. We have no idea what mean or cruel thing she will say next. So all we want is to stay in this comfort zone, separating us from others. Drawing a line between us and the world.
When we are hurt and wounded, we like to get away from life and hide in our personal bubble. If life all takes place in your bubble then it is a problem. We look outside of the bubble and see the dangers, so we can only imagine a place in our little minds where everything we do is safe. Nothing leaves this bubble: no secrets, regrets and tears. Looking out at the world, we feel lost, ashamed and abandoned. But when we are in our safe bubble, the outside war doesn't bother us. Everything outside has no relevance to us. When the real world has damaged us so much, it is hard to go back in even if we feel left out. The fear of being hurt keeps coming back to our minds when we try to socialize again. The voices “she called you ugly~ she called you fat~ she called you a bit*h” keeps repeating and repeating. When a trauma like this happened it is hard to work in groups. We have no idea what mean or cruel thing she will say next. So all we want is to stay in this comfort zone, separating us from others. Drawing a line between us and the world.
“Your grades are astonishing. Your teacher gives you an 11 out of 10. Better than perfect, he says. Your sister brings home 7s and 8s. Your mother says to her, Why can’t you be as smart/good as your sister?” (pg 75)
When girls gets compared to each other, you should expect a volcanic explosion within minutes. This not only destroys their close cooperation but also hurts their relationship with parents. Although “parents compare children when they’re bursting with anger (e.g., ‘Why can’t you hurry up? Your brother was in the car 10 minutes ago!’) and when they’re bursting with pleasure (e.g., ‘Your big brother has been working on that for an hour and you figured it out in two minutes!’),” it still hurts their sibling relationship. Getting compared to siblings puts us under major depression and it leaves us thinking why we can’t be as good as them. When we have this thought, we want to compete with them for mother’s compliments. All we want as a child is parents’ compliments and love. But, one of us always end up getting hurt when we get compared, . This book should also be read by adults because it allows them to see what their child don’t say It is also a pleasant way to build up relationships with their children again.
When girls gets compared to each other, you should expect a volcanic explosion within minutes. This not only destroys their close cooperation but also hurts their relationship with parents. Although “parents compare children when they’re bursting with anger (e.g., ‘Why can’t you hurry up? Your brother was in the car 10 minutes ago!’) and when they’re bursting with pleasure (e.g., ‘Your big brother has been working on that for an hour and you figured it out in two minutes!’),” it still hurts their sibling relationship. Getting compared to siblings puts us under major depression and it leaves us thinking why we can’t be as good as them. When we have this thought, we want to compete with them for mother’s compliments. All we want as a child is parents’ compliments and love. But, one of us always end up getting hurt when we get compared, . This book should also be read by adults because it allows them to see what their child don’t say It is also a pleasant way to build up relationships with their children again.